Both Prince William and Prince Harry Were “Lost Souls” Before Meeting Their Wives, Royal Author Says

Before meeting the women who would ultimately become their wives, royal author Tom Quinn says both Prince William and Prince Harry were “lost souls” following the death of their mother, Princess Diana, in a Parisian car accident in 1997. At the time of her death, William was 15 and Harry 12, nearly 13.

But, after William met Kate Middleton in 2001 and after Harry met Meghan Markle in 2016, the brothers found supportive partners who provide them with the support they need, Quinn said, per The Mirror.

“I think actually, in a strange way, the two boys, William and Harry, need their partners in a very similar way,” he said. Describing Diana as “perhaps more modern and loving” than her ex-husband King Charles, Quinn said “So, when their mother died, they had that terrible thing on top of the insecurity of being brought up by paid staff. I think by the time they reached adulthood, they both needed a woman who was either, in the case of William, level-headed and strong in that quiet, solid, secure way Kate has or, in the case of Harry, someone like Meghan, who was going to grab him by the scruff of the neck and say, ‘This is the way to live.’”

Though the two men are obviously very different, “the end result was the same, because the symptoms were the same,” Quinn said. “I think by the time Harry and William reached their late teens, they were lost souls.”

William met Kate while both were first-year students at the University of St. Andrews in 2001. They were a couple by 2003, and, despite a brief breakup in 2007, stayed together for seven years until their engagement in 2010. They were married on April 29, 2011. Harry and Meghan met on a blind date in 2016, became engaged in 2017, and married on May 19, 2018, after less than two years of knowing one another—breaking Harry’s firm rule when it came to dating, The Mirror reports.

In his memoir, Spare, Harry recounted the “firm rules” when it came to royal relationships, and “the main one was that you absolutely must date a woman for three years before taking the plunge,” Harry wrote in the book. But, following a trip to Africa with Meghan just a month or two into their relationship, Harry realized “Meg seemed the shining exception to this rule,” he wrote. “All rules. I knew her straightaway, and she knew me. The true me. Might seem rash, I thought, might seem illogical, but it’s true: For the first time, in fact, I felt myself to be living in truth.” Harry and Meghan met and married inside of 22 months; William and Kate, for comparison’s sake, had known one another for nearly a decade prior to their nuptials.